A Beginner’s Guide to the Swingers Lifestyle

Posted by admin | Swingers | Friday 22 May 2009 10:03 am

If you’re considering adopting a swinging lifestyle, there are a few things to consider before you get started. Ensure a fun and safe experience by reading through these tips and suggestions first.

1. Think about Why

Before you leap into the swinging lifestyle, take a moment together to discuss why you want to swing. If you’re looking to add some zest to your relationship and fulfill some exciting fantasies, swinging might be exactly what you need. If you’re trying to fix an unhealthy relationship or if you’re agreeing to swinging simply to get your partner to stay, it’s probably not a good avenue to pursue. Have a candid and honest discussion before you adopt this alternative lifestyle.

2. Consider Fantasies

Once you’ve decided that this is a healthy move for your relationship, it’s time to talk about your fantasies. The sky is truly the limit so get creative. Are you looking for other couples or perhaps just one other person to join you? Would you like to be tied up? Are you hoping to just watch?

3. Talk About No-Nos

Some couples have an ‘anything goes’ attitude, while others prefer to set a few ground rules. What sort of couple are you? Talk about your expectations and preferences ahead of time to avoid a tense situation later on.

4. Construct New Identities

Most swinging couples prefer to remain anonymous and so they create personas. Have some fun creating a mysterious and exciting identity beginning with new names.

5. Use the Internet

One of the easiest ways to get started in the swinging world is to join an adult dating site. Once you create a profile, you’ll be able to meet all kinds of couples and individuals interested in swinging. You can review their profiles and photos and then contact them privately through the website instead of using your private email address.

6. Choose the Right People

If you’ve met someone online you think you might be attracted to, set up a time to talk on the phone and eventually meet in person. Many couples meet up for casual drinks before they decide to take it further. You may end up ‘interviewing’ several couples and individuals before you’ve made the right match. Be patient.

7. Look into Clubs

Chances are there are several swingers clubs near you. Check your adult dating site to see if any are listed and run an online search. Ask some people you have met online and get their advice. Don’t be afraid to contact a club ahead of time to learn about the type of clientele it attracts and what rules they have in place.

8. Find a Party

Your adult dating site is also a great place to find a swingers party. If you’ve never been to a swinger’s party, do a little research ahead of time so that you know what to expect.

9. Keep it on the Down Low

Most people keep their swinging lifestyle fairly private. Respect people’s privacy and don’t ask a lot of personal questions.

10. Enjoy Yourselves

The most important thing to remember is to have fun. Ease yourself into the swinging lifestyle slowly, making sure you and your partner are comfortable every step of the way.

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